Family Health Handout: Smart Relationships
Health Challenge - Know the keys to smart relationships.
Smart Checkup
Children need adults to learn how to handle bullying. Use this “checkup” to see what your family knows about it.
True or False:
- Bullying is aggressive behavior done on purpose to gain power over another person. True
- You should not get involved if you see someone being bullied. False. Bullying is unfair, wrong, and mean. Do not ignore it.
- Bullying can be physical hitting, teasing, name-calling, gestures that intimidate or put down, exclusion, and sending insulting messages or pictures by phone or Internet (cyberbullying). True
- The only way to teach a bully is to fight back or bully them back. False. This usually does not make things better. Avoid trouble; don’t be a bully yourself – act wiser and better.
- Keep silent and the bully will go away. False. It’s normal to want to ignore it and hope it will stop. But, bullying often won’t stop until adults and other kids say or do something to stop the bully.
- You’re a tattletale if you tell an adult you’ve been bullied. False. Telling is NOT tattling. Reporting a bully may be scary or embarrassing, and it takes courage. Reporting them is always right.
Stop Bullying? What Kids Can Do
- If bullied face-to-face:
- Stay with a group and/or walk away and tell an adult.
- If it feels safe, calmly tell the bully, “I don’t like it. Please stop!” Then walk away. Remember you can also ask someone to be with you when you tell bullies to stop.
- If bullied online or by cell phone:
- Don’t reply. Always tell a family member or a trusted adult.
- If possible, block messages from this person.
- Save evidence. Print out nasty e-mails or save to show an adult.
4-H Families Online
Watch videos on bullying problems at https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/kids/kid-videos
Know the Signs
A victim of bullying may be:
- Lonely and depressed
- Nervous
- Not confident
- Missing school days
- Often sick
Do you know a victim? Tell an adult.